Friends and family are great, aren’t they? They are the ones you usually go to for everything. You want to share things with them. They are your VIPs, after all. You even want to tell them all the good and the bad, too- even when it comes to relationships. But how much should you really be telling them about your relationship? Not as much as you may think. Allow me to explain. Let’s go over reasons not to tell friends and family all about your love life.
Judge and Jury
Your mate could be the most awesome individual on the planet, but there are those that may always weigh in with whether the person is doing enough or perhaps doing too much. Everything could be rainbows and butterflies between you and your mate, but those who love you may always have an opinion, so why give them the opportunity to weigh in? If they ask how things are, you can simply answer how they are without giving a day-by-day breakdown. Just letting them know that you are happy should suffice. And if you are genuinely happy, they will see it and be happy too.
Top Notch Protection
We have all had rocky relationships, so unless you are prepared to walk, getting your loved ones involved is never a good thing. Telling a best friend or your sister about something your mate did that you think was unfair to you will simply create uncomfortable moments when they are around this person. This is because they love you, so if you want those that are close to you to continue to think your mate is as great as you do, then keep small and petty arguments to yourself.
Low Key Envy
As much as your friends and family may love you, they are human, and if they are not in the best place in their lives, it may not be the wisest decision to boast about what an amazing relationship you have. This is where you should be intuitive enough to know that they may be low key envious of what you have, but not in a bad way, just wishing that they found that for themselves.
So, go ahead girl. Live your life, be happy and keep your business private. If you’ve found your ride or die, don’t ruin it with mindless rants. You both deserve peace and happiness.
Editor’s Note: If you should find yourself in an abusive relationship, please do tell someone and reach out for help.