Differences of opinion on the state our country can be more common than you think amongst couples. One thing that usually helps is for you to talk it out. Have those difficult conversations. Here are some helpful tips on how to do so.
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Keep the Conversation Respectful
While you may be extremely anxious to make your point, be sure to not disrespect your mate when speaking. Being a conversation bully and ridiculing your mate’s point of view is not the way to go. Let them speak their part. And do the same, because that is the only way you will actually know where
they stand.
Tips:
- Pause, gather your thoughts and breathe.
- Make a list of what you want to go over. Include some bullet notes or examples to prove your point. Many times, people want facts to help them change their opinion on a topic.
- Lead with love. Let your partner know that you care about them and how they feel and that you need them to do the same for you.
Be Mindful of Your Words
Taking a moment to simply think before you speak can save you (and your relationship). Remember back in Kindergarten when the teacher said, ask yourself- is it true? is it helpful? is it important? is it necessary? is it kind? That is solid advice that still holds true for adults. Positioning may not be as important when debating with a stranger or even a friend, but with someone you share your life with, it is vital. Make sure you don’t say something that will damage or scar your bond moving forward. Words can truly hurt.
It’s Okay to Disagree
A couple may not always agree on any given topic, and that is fine because we are all individuals. Do not give into going along with another person’s way of seeing things, simply to keep the peace. There is always another way to do that and that is by agreeing to disagree. You may not see eye to eye, but you do have to acknowledge the fact that you each have a right to your own opinion. Whether or not you can live with what the other’s opinion may be will be for you to decide.
